Biggest thing that happened in my life is I lost my son to cardiac arrest in Aug of 22. Then lost my home due to not being able to pay.
I'm currently living with a cousin in a totally different state.
It's been a shitty year all around.
About a month ago I deleted all my family associated with my mom’s side of the family. I have no regrets about that all. They’ve made their stance on what I am to the family a long time ago.
I feel a lot freer after that.
Well the other day while waiting at the doctor’s office I took it further. The real final cut.
I’ve deleted all their phone numbers from my land line and my cell phone.
Since I don’t pick up the phone and answer it unless I know the number, that mean’s their numbers won’t be known or answered. Not that they’ve called. Unless it’s was an emergency or they needed something from me, they never did. I always had to make the calls. They’d get irrationally mad at me if I didn’t call once a day (mostly mom). But since she got sick and has since died. I only ever heard from them 4 times….. in 4 years. And that was they needed something an to let me know she was gone.
I don’t need their shit on top of everything else I have going on.
I’m much better off.
It’s not just the fact that I’m fat or ugly or that I’m old with lots and lots of gray hair. Those are horrifying enough to make me want to vomit violently, daily.
No the truly scary thing is occasionally I see my mother in the mirror. I see her face. The scowl lines around her mouth. The jowls forming under my jaw. My nose is widening. I’m squinting through my glasses. I see her hairline.
Will I also turn into the cruel hateful bitch she was? Will my mind deteriorate the way hers did? I already have so many mental problems. At least I won’t throw away my children like she did. I won’t favor one over the others. I only have one and I can’t live life with out him. But am I holding him back?
It doesn’t happen often. But every once in a while, I’ll stroll past the bathroom mirror and just for one second I stop breathing…. I see her face.
And it literally scares me to death.
This is my freedom day.
17 years ago my grandmother passed away.
Why you may ask. How does that compare to freedom?
I grew up with my grandparents after both of my parents abandoned me and there was no place left to go. I was barely 5 and NO ONE wanted me, so my grand parents took me in out of obligation.
They were hyper religious, especially my grandmother. I never had friends come over because she'd preach at them.
I was abused by my birth mom and subsequent step mom (all this was after my mom just took off and dad remarried.) BUT........ my grandmother never let me forget about it. She'd bring up the abuse at weird times.
They never hugged me, or kissed me, Read stories to me at bed time. There was no foul language in allowed. Heck I couldn't even have "Apple Jacks" cereal because Apple jack was a kind of home distilled alcohol and that was a deadly sin apparently.
After I began to take care of her in her remaining years is when I also had my son. The digs didn't stop then either.
When he was little Disney's Jungle Book was released on VHS or DVD *i don't remember which* McDonalds put the characters in the happy meals. Well we got quite a few Kaa the snake. Only to have them suddenly disappear. I usually found them buried in the trash. WHY? because snakes were evil according to the bible........... (the 'serpent' who tempted Eve in the garden of Eden) Serpent=Snake Evil incarnate.
Also when he was little my son was struck with Viral Encephalitis [X] this gave him various learning disorders and delayed physical traits. Her brilliant deduction was "Well maybe if he had a father around he'd be smarter" WTF? woman.
So yeah I have no real love for any of my family. My aunts and uncles all resented that my grandparents HAD to take care of me and they never let me forget it. And I've never really been close to my mom's sadistic bunch.
So 17 years ago when my grandmother finally passed I felt like I could really breath and be myself for the first time ever. I've grown so much from that day. I can now freely curse and drink *which i always did but secretly* I can live the life I need to live.
FANDOM: Bleach
PAIRING: Implied ShunUki, Shunsui Kyoraku, Juushiro Ukitake
COMMENTS: AU, Death. I find sometimes when I'm pretty emotionally broken writing helps. Sometimes..... not sure about this time.
Bleach and all characters belong to Tite Kubo, Unbeta'd so all mistakes are mine alone.